Being a woman is demanding. Being a working woman is harder. Being a mother while managing work, expectations, ageing parents, children’s needs, finances, and society’s silent standards, can feel relentless.
Over time, the subconscious mind becomes like a storeroom. Every day’s emotions of disappointments, fears, guilt, resentment, pressure are pushed in quickly and stacked wherever there is room. There is no time to sort them. No time to sit with them.
There are lunches to pack.
Deadlines to meet.
Homework to supervise.
Bills to pay.
Loss To Mourn.
So feelings are postponed. Anxiety is suppressed. Anger at the unfairness of it all is swept to the back with a tinge of guilt and remorse.
You feel alone – no one understands, no one who you can talk to about this. A patriarchal society expects everything of you and anything less is a supposed show of weakness. That you are not enough.
You keep holding on and on and on. Until something breaks.
It is not the Exception to the Rule.
I have seen the above scenario in multiple facets of women’s lives. And I want them to know that they are not alone in this, and that their pain is real. That they deserve so much better.
I received a message from a young mother of two who had lost her husband in an accident. Her children were still in primary school. Overnight, she became everything — provider, protector, emotional anchor.
She did not ask me how to stop grieving.
She asked, “How do I find my purpose again?”
That question stayed with me. Because it’s a question I hear so often from so many women, in many different stages of grief and despair.
Grief Hides many Emotions
Grief is not just sadness. It is identity disruption. When a woman loses her partner, be it through death or divorce, she often loses the version of herself she knew. And yet, society expects her to stay functional. Strong for the children. Composed in front of others.
But when the subconscious has been storing unprocessed emotions for years, a crisis can feel like collapse because she has had no safe place to unpack.
Deep subconscious work takes time. It takes patience. It often requires many sessions. But not every woman can afford long-term one-to-one therapy — especially when finances suddenly become tight.
That is why I began something small.
5 Souls A Month
Every month, I hold an intimate group session. Only five women. Five souls. Five individuals allowed to sit without pretending.
No lecture or a dramatic catharsis.
Just a guided subconscious awareness. A gentle relaxation. An emotional processing, and structured reflection.
In these small circles, women will begin to notice what they have been carrying. They will learn how to regulate their nervous system. They learn that understanding the subconscious mind is not mystical, it is a skill that can be cultivated, which will lead to long term peace, contentment and success in their daily life.
A Tiny Cost, A Drop In The Ocean Of Possibilities
The cost is only RM89 per participant. Not because the work is small but because I believe emotional support should not be a luxury.
When women sit together in a safe space, something shifts. Comparison softens. Isolation reduces. The nervous system realises it is not alone.
This is where healing begins.
If you have felt that longing for something more than just surviving — perhaps what you need is not another responsibility.
Perhaps you just need space. To breathe, listen inward, and remember who you are beyond what you carry.
